A couple of months ago, I wrote an article on 6 Ways to Be Successful Selling Paparazzi Jewelry.
Today, I want to especially highlight #1 from that article, which is be positive.
Positivity is crucial for success in any business.
People often want to skip over “mindset” when they talk about their business, but I always start there.
I’ve found success is not determined mainly by your circumstances, it’s not determined mainly by your genetics, it is determined mainly by your mindset.
Your attitude, the way you think.
I truly believe that success starts on the inside and works its way out.
From experience, I have found that when I set my mind on something, that something starts to become true.
This isn’t “magic,” it’s just that your subconscious mind looks for what you tell it to look for.
For example, have you ever noticed that when you buy a car, or are researching a car, you start seeing that car all over the place?
It isn’t that there are more of that particular car than there was before, it is that you have told yourself to look for that particular car.
In the same way, if I told you to “go find a penny on the sidewalk today,” you would notice pennies that you would not have noticed otherwise.
Again, those pennies didn’t “magically appear” because you were thinking about them.
They were always there, you just didn’t notice them.
The same is true with positivity.
When you think positively, you are training your mind to find positive things.
The “positive” things become the pennies on the sidewalk, that you might not have noticed until you put your mind on them.
In the same way, when you think negatively, you are training yourself to find negative things.
How to handle failure
So what do you do with negative things that happen in your life?
Do you just “pretend” that these are positive?
No, pretending doesn’t work. You can’t fool yourself.
Instead, you need to reframe these negative things in a positive way.
The most common way to do that, for me, is to realize that every failure is a life lesson that helps me grow as a person.
You can’t grow without failure. Failure is when the real growth occurs in your life.
If you start looking at failure this way, you no longer dread failure, and are no longer negative about failure, but you cherish the life lesson that was learned from each and every failure, and think positively.
Complaining: The Queen of all Negativity
At the root of negativity is complaining.
Complaining is rampant in our culture.
Complaining about people, complaining about circumstances. Even complaining about things we have no control over like the weather.
Complaining is a complete waste of time, and it drains both you and the people you complain to.
It also is the root of negativity.
Small problems become big problems when you complain about them.
Your problems become other people’s problems when you complain about them.
So, no matter how good it feels, if you want to be a positive person, you must stop complaining.
Instead of complaining, replace it with gratitude!
Instead of “the weather today is awful,” you can say “Spring is coming soon!”
When you do this, three things will happen: 1) You will be in a better mood, 2) The people around you will be in a better mood, 3) You will start to see positivity all around you.
Check yourself on your positivity today.
In what areas of your life do you tend to be negative?
Are you a complainer?
Find someone (maybe a spouse or close friend) to hold you accountable to never complain.